For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Happiness… a single word that we all chase after. But only few gets it. Why is that? Why can’t we all be happy? What is causing us depression? What is the reason for all those long hours of crying at 2 A.M? The answer to all of these questions is nothing but our understanding.
What primarily makes us lose our happiness is worrying. Worrying about anything – be it your studies, job, relationships. The thing is, uncertainty about the future will always prevail. And this uncertainty is the very foundation of worries. If there is something you can do about the stuff that is worrying you, then why are you even worrying about it… You can simply do what’s needed to be done. But, if there is nothing you can do about it, then also, why are you worrying? You can’t change it, it’s not under your control.
Do you have a problem in life? No? Then why worry?
Do you have a problem in life? Yes? Can you do something about it? Yes? Then why worry?
Do you have a problem in life? Yes? Can you do something about it? No? Then why worry?
– Gaur Gopal Das
Remember our childhood? We were all so happy and jubilant? How come we were happy then, but today, we can’t be happy? We are the same human beings, we have the same skin, the same lungs, the same brain. Then, why can’t we enjoy our every breath? Life was simple back then, we knew little and thus we had to care for very few things. As we grow up, information is forcibly fed into our minds, it becomes congested. All those information’s, they bring up new questions. Questions like, will my friends like my dress? will I get the job? And with these questions, we begin to doubt our selves. We doubt our self morale, our self-beliefs. And that is where depression sets in. We try so much to make ourselves perfect for the other, but the reality is, perfection does not exist. What we think is perfection is merely our interpretation of perfection. No matter how hard you try, it’s a fact that you will never be perfect! Nobody is! So, stop chasing perfection, and start following purity. It does not matter if your friends like the dress or not, you bought it because you liked it, and you liked it because you wanted to wear it. So, go on, wear the dress! If your friends are really your friends, a simple dress won’t make them leave! And trust me, out of the 7.5 billion people, there will surely be one who will just absolutely love your dress! Don’t ever underestimate your own value! You are your most precious jewel! Don’t let anyone hold you down. Don’t ask who will help you, ask who will stop you from achieving what you want!
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.
– Dr. Seuss
There is a saying “Fake it till you make it!” Follow that! It takes only 21 days to change any habit. Just for 21 days, pretend you’re happy! And trust me, after that period, you’ll just forget that you’re pretending! You don’t have much control over the outside world. But on the inside, you are the supreme ruler! If something is amiss in the mental world, fix that first! First, achieve mental peace! Then you will automatically start seeing the world with a better viewpoint! It doesn’t matter what age you are, it is always okay to be yourself, that childish your self! Go out to the park! Play with the children, you’ll see the real joy in their eyes! Talk with the aged people, understand them, help them! They have already had their rough chapters in this world! Help them to achieve happiness! And trust me, they will share that with you!
Just because you are happy, it does not mean that the day is perfect but that you have looked beyond its imperfections.
– Bob Marley
You see what you think! Stop thinking about all the negative sides! Look at the brighter optimistic side! There are always two ways to view something, one, the pessimistic approach, which will depress your mind, mentally force you down; and the other is the optimistic way, which will open an entire world of open happiness to you! Don’t look at the dark clouds in the thunderstorm, look at the rainbow following it! The answer to the question “How to be happy” is already inside us, we just don’t make the effort to find it. Make that effort! Understand yourself! Understand what you like and what not! Because only after you have understood your self, you can look forward to understanding the world.